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One mistake most make in our prime when we tackle ambitious goals

Why do we fear those largely ambitious goals when we've graduated past our 30s or 40s? Getting an education in a new field or starting a business seems too lofty of a goal to tackle, and completely unreasonable to many.

That's what I thought too!

Now in my 50s I've decided to end this ridiculousness of being too old, or that four years of an academic commitment is half of my life I have left!  As I look back, those four years have repeated itself several times. And guess what? I'm still here.

This kept me from taking the first step

Much of what derailed this ambitious goal was me focusing on the end result. There were so many stories I told myself of how this would consume my life, and four years is a long time! What more can I do with that time?

This kept me from taking the first step. I had the end goal in mind but no idea if I could handle the hard work and effort required in between to make it happen. Committing to a dream this big seemed out of my...

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How your unique qualities can make you attractive and still fit in

There are eight characteristics that make a person attractive, and being unique is the third. Although, there's a balance between being unique and fitting in that must be maintained to uphold this healthy identity and be seen as attractive.

There are many influences in our environment that guide us in discovering who we really are—friends, family, teachers, horoscopes, personality test, experts—although, they're not all accurate. They're based on generalizations, or they're derived from another person's experience and/or fears. 

We're the only ones who can define our true uniqueness. And we need to be clear on our identity in order to make ourselves feel unique—to be an individual, independent and special. To feel like an important speck on this massive planet. 

But then there's this pull to be part of a group, a collective, or a community. We must have this connection with others to satisfy our need to feel important and to...

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6 ways you can move from stressed to happy about money

self-improvement Dec 21, 2020
 
Has payday become an event in your life? A happy time when you have the freedom to spend? Maybe you breath a sign of relief and feel successful managing short term expenses for two more weeks? 
 
If this is what money represents—freedom, happiness, and success—then money might be controlling you instead of you controlling it. 
 
Would it be nice to never have to worry about money again? To be confident that there will always be money in the bank to cover the next bill? And then some?
 
The way we communicate to ourselves about money can have us experiencing it as either always available, or always lacking. But we have to make some changes to help view money in a positive way. 
 
About nine years back, working as a real estate agent, I was constantly chasing after my next commission cheque. I would check my bank account almost daily to make sure that I was able to pay the bills, juggle the...
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How better decisions are made by doing these three things

When have you made some of the worst decisions in your life? This can be committing to something you shouldn't have, or acting out in ways that isn't like your normal behaviour. 

We all have those moments when we give into a request and say yes, instead of no. Or say or do something that we wish we hadn't. Then have to sort out the mess the next day, or try to figure out how our schedule will handle this new commitment.

Making decisions is one of the most important skills in our life. One we practice over and over again, starting from the time we're born, and we progressively getting better at strengthening this skill as we mature.

But sometimes we have set backs and make bad decisions that aren't good for us. Most of these regrettable decisions can often be linked to our state of being at that time. We're tired, upset, intoxicated, overly optimistic, stressed, lonely, etc.  

When we're in one of these states our awareness is reduced and we're not reflecting...

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Find more opportunities and reduce stress by doing 3 things right now

Have you ever experienced a feeling of being rushed or the need to over multi-task? This is a sign that we've been roped into the fast paced way of living. Don't worry, you're not the only one, we all get lured into this spell bounding hurry up and don't fall behind way of being.

Although, what I would worry about is if we're always in top speed to get ahead or merely to keep up. This can lead to lost opportunities, and more stress that results in reduced productivity and thus, lost income!

But there's a way to get off of this fast paced manic train, and that's by slowing down. Of course, if it was just the act of slowing down there would be far more relaxed and content people out there, and I wouldn't have to talk to you about this. 

The process of slowing down allows you to get further ahead, and also live a more fulfilled life, but it requires self-control. Something many of us have heard of, yet we lack the insight to manage it. 

Having self-control allows for...

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How to look confident while responding to critics and nosy people

How do you respond to negative feedback, criticism, and nosy people? Most of us, and most times, we want to tell them where to go. Although, it's a bit tougher when it's your boss, coworker, customer, relative or a friend. So we resort to biting our tongue, ignoring them, or changing the subject.

Not anymore!

In this blog, we’ll cover 3 areas of communication that will help you look confident when responding to the uncomfortable or awkward conversations.

  1. How to prepare your mind for difficult conversations with those in your life
  2. Restore your power when face to face with negative feedback 
  3. Critical responses to overcome obstacles and boost your confidence

How to prepare your mind for difficult conversations

  1. Keep yourself from allowing past experiences to predict how the conversation will go.

    People change every moment—even slightly—and learn something new within those moments. Realistically, we can’t expect the same conversation to go in the same...
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3 ways communication tests love and respect in a relationship, and how to improve it

When in a relationship we sometimes wonder if it's going as well as it should. The newness has warn off a bit and now we're feeling like it's settling. But we're not sure what it's settling into, and that the love and respect you were first shown still exists.

As we settle into a relationship, communication can start to get lazy. We don't work as hard to be interested in the other, and fail to pay attention to the changes we're each experiencing as we get older. 

Then months or years go by and we feel like we're less connected. Conversations are reduced to small talk and there seems to be this lack of interest in each other. The relationship has settled into a comfy existence. 

Here are three ways that communication can tell us if we're still respected and loved in a relationship, and yes, that it hasn't settled!

  1. Your partner allows you to finish what you want to say without interruption. Many times people will be so anxious to give...
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3 steps to onboard new customers at your boutique business

business communication Aug 14, 2020
 

We often talk about onboarding our new employees, but have you ever considered using a similar approach to new customers?

Having a system to onboard new customers can increase your business's retention rate, repeat business and referrals. In this blog, let's look at how three steps will improve customer engagement, especially at a boutique type business.

If we consider something that we've tried for the first time, such as getting behind the wheel of a vehicle, there are many things to familiarize ourselves with. The position of the controls, adjustment of the seat, and then the sensitivity of the brakes and gas pedal. But the more we get behind the wheel, the more that the feeling of anxiousness subsides. We feel relaxed and know our way around.

This is the same experience when someone visits your store. At first they don't know what to expect, or where to locate things, but after the second or third time visiting they feel more comfortable and more...

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One tool that will have you reply with more confidence

 
In the past, have you responded urgently to a request from your boss, in order to look more valued than your competition? Or quickly responded to a question from an authority figure, to explain your circumstances? 
 
Providing an urgent response can do you more harm than good. It can take you from looking confident and valuable, to looking desperate, and insecure. Ouch!
 
One communication tool that'll make you look and sound confident, is to pause.
 
In this blog, you'll find out how to use this simple tool so that you can elevate your worth at the company, handle awkward questions from accusers, and connect on a deeper level with your spouse. 
 
We have all had that moment in elementary school when the teacher is accusing us of doing something wrong. Right? And when she looks down at us with glaring eyes—since back then we were shorter—we'd panic and try to come up with the best answer...
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How to gain value from negative feedback

 

A common fear is the anticipation of negative feedback, especially after we express our opinion, step into the role of a thought leader, give advice, comment on a post, or be interviewed as an expert. Because of this we may have the tendency to hold back what we want to say, or stay small, or safe so that we won’t have to open ourselves up to that criticism.

Today, let’s look at feedback differently and how it can be of great value to us, in our personal and professional life. We'll look at what's behind those responses and how to gain value from it. 

Feedback is a source of valuable information that allows us to grow personally and professionally, gain more credibility, and fine tune our expertise. Although, we often cringe at the sight of it and get defensive when we receive comments that aren't positive. 

When someone gives us feedback they’re doing it for a reason. But their feedback can be mistaken for criticism because...

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