Following through with your goals is much different in 2022 than it was three years ago. The reason being is that you aren’t as socially connected to others in your circle of friends and colleagues as you were before.
Not having that accountability from friends and colleagues leaves you to be the one to motivate and drive the direction of your goals.
When you’re in the presence of others, and I’m talking in-person and not in an online conference call, you are seen by others. And when physically seen, it’s hard to hide that you aren’t on track with your goals. Your non-verbal communication reveals that you haven’t been sticking to your diet, getting up an hour earlier, or making those sales calls.
So, in the presence of others, you tend to keep to your word, or your commitment to your goals, and follow through with them because you don’t want to look bad. The idea...
When in a relationship you sometimes wonder if it's going as well as it should. The newness has warn off a bit and now you're feeling like it's settling. But you're not sure what it's settling into, and if the love and respect you were first shown still exists.
As you settle into a relationship, communication can start to get lazy. We don't work as hard to be interested in the other, and fail to pay attention to the changes each of you are experiencing as the relationship matures.
Then months or years go by and you feel like you're less connected. Conversations are reduced to small talk and there seems to be this lack of interest in each other.
The relationship has settled into a comfy existence.
Here are three ways that communication can tell us if we're still respected and loved in a relationship, and yes, that it hasn't settled!
The chapter you’re in is coming to an end, and it’s not looking good. Your relationship is over, and you’re feeling like a part of you has left with the one you loved. You’re moving from “we” to “me” and you’re not sure what your life will look like going forward.
But instead of going right back onto the dating apps, why not do some personal growth work so you’re more complete and available for a new relationship?
It feels right to sooth yourself in a bed of despair, and long for what was. But why not work on repairing and strengthening your position instead? By working on strategies for your personal development you can enter a new relationship more complete and available. Thus, increasing your chances of succeeding with someone new.
When you move on from a relationship there can be a feeling of loss, resentment, anger, or sadness,...
If you’re having a hard time achieving life goals your meaning of success maybe what's holding you back. You’re putting in a lot of work to make your personal and professional goals come to fruition, but it seems like you’re putting in a lot of effort with very little results to show for it.
This gets frustrating and you easily lose your motivation and your momentum to work on your goals. So, in order to make achieving goals easier you need to look at your definition of success.
When you think of success, what comes to mind?
Many have a set of markers to measure success, that are dictated by your culture, your environment, and the people in it. But success isn’t a one size fits all definition, comprised of certain milestones, or criteria such as, university degree, being married, you own a house, have a nice car, 2.1 kids, or several years dedicated to a career.
Success is more tied to your...
When you’re not comfortable in a certain situation you’ll feel some stress. Good stress is when you give up a bit of control and reach beyond your comfort zone, yet still have the assurance that you can achieve your goals.
Although, when you give up too much control you feel that your freedom is at risk and you begin to worry.
When you ruminate about what could be, in a negative way, this worry and anxiety begins to take over and shows up in your life in different ways. This impacts your success rate for achieving your goals.
You continue to think that your life is manageable, and ignore or don’t acknowledge the signs that warn you this is too much. Eventually this escalates and you begin to feel overwhelmed.
But how you respond to stress maybe different than how others will.
To help you be aware of the signs that you have too much worry and anxiety in your...
When I was in the thick of renovations, stuff was in boxes and it took me more time to find things, and I spent a lot of time dusting and cleaning....
How do you get rid of the automatic negative thoughts in your mind? These come up as doubtful messages or unsupportive dialogue that keeps you from achieving your goals. It's like your evil twin that doesn't want you to succeed.
You may have experienced, as most everyone does, that when you come up against a challenging or uncomfortable situation there are thoughts that invade your mind and begin to cast doubt on your abilities. These thoughts may also take you down a path of the worst case scenario.
To reduce the impact, or interrupt the course that these automatic negative thoughts create, you have to practice a strategy that will build confidence and start supporting you to achieve your goals.
Have you noticed that when a doubt enters your mind it sometimes snowballs into a negative storm cloud that hovers over you for hours? It builds on one negative thought after another. Then you find...
Why do you fear those big personal goals, especially when you've graduated past your 30s or 40s? Getting an education in the field of study we always wanted, or starting a business from our passion, seems too lofty of a goal to tackle, and completely unreasonable to many.
That's what I thought too!
Now in my 50s, I've decided to end this ridiculousness of being too old, and put aside the thoughts that a four year academic commitment takes too much time! As I look back, those four years have repeated itself several times. And guess what? I'm still here, and still wanting to go for it.
Much of what derailed my personal goals was me focusing on the end result. There were so many stories I told myself of how this would consume my life, and four years is a long time! What more can I do with that time?
This kept me from taking the first step. I had the end...