Find more opportunities and reduce stress by doing 3 things right now

Have you ever experienced a feeling of being rushed or the need to over multi-task? This is a sign that we've been roped into the fast paced way of living. Don't worry, you're not the only one, we all get lured into this spell bounding hurry up and don't fall behind way of being.

Although, what I would worry about is if we're always in top speed to get ahead or merely to keep up. This can lead to lost opportunities, and more stress that results in reduced productivity and thus, lost income!

But there's a way to get off of this fast paced manic train, and that's by slowing down. Of course, if it was just the act of slowing down there would be far more relaxed and content people out there, and I wouldn't have to talk to you about this. 

The process of slowing down allows you to get further ahead, and also live a more fulfilled life, but it requires self-control. Something many of us have heard of, yet we lack the insight to manage it. 

Having self-control allows for calm in our life and the structure to experience opportunities. We enjoy more free time, and our stress, worry and anxiety is minimized. 

Professor Roy Baumeister, social and personality psychologist of Queensland University says that when people have high self-control they succeed more, earn higher salaries, are more popular, have stable relationships, and have better mental and physical health. 

We're conditioned to believe that working faster and harder will create better results. When those results don't come quick enough we try to manipulate or control the situation. Have you ever made a sales presentation to a client in the morning and feel you have to contact them to make sure they received it, even though only three hours has passed? Or if at a restaurant you check your watch as you wait for the server to bring your drinks? 

The thoughts that run through our mind that the client rejected our offer, or the server is ignoring us, distracts us from being present. We become consumed with these thoughts and when we aren't present we're not seeing what's going on in front of us and many times we make mistakes, miss opportunities, or worse, get into accidents.  

Although when we slow down, we're able to focus on the task at hand and become more productive. We experience more joy and contentment in each moment. Our creativeness is heightened and we become more aware of opportunities. 

To slow down we need to start to build awareness. We must acknowledge that this fast pace, that we've become accustomed to, has built up over the years. To slow down we need to break up that habit and start to undo what we've created.

Building awareness involves observing our behaviour. Where was my mind when I was driving my car? How was I feeling when talking to my employee? What was I thinking when looking for my keys? And what was I doing when I stubbed my toe?

If we're experiencing a string of accidents or missed opportunities, this means we're losing control. Our mind becomes distracted, we lack focus, and opportunities escape us when we live a fast paced life. 

 To increase our self-awareness we need to practice three things;

  1. Lessen that scattered feeling by creating standards in our life. This includes how we want to show up, the goals we want to achieve, and what's expected of us. This creates a foundation to check in with when we start to get back into those old habits.
  2. Keep track of our behaviour. Notice when we feel distracted and why. Then course correct and slow down, instead of letting that thought overtake us and create momentum in our mind.
  3. Increase our willpower. When we need to change our behaviour we must have the energy to do so. Stress, anxiety, and taking on too much depletes our willpower. Find ways to recharge when exhaustion sets in. 

When we get sucked into the fast paced lifestyle, our environment and the people in it begin to control us instead of having control of our own life. Once we begin to gain control of our behaviour we increase our self-respect and self-knowledge. With high self-control our stress and anxiety are reduced because there's less worry about what will happen. We are focused on what's going on right now. 

By practicing self-control, we're investing in a lifestyle that's enjoyable and abundant. No longer are we a slave to others or our environment. 

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