A common fear for successful leaders is the anticipation of hearing from critics, especially after you express your opinion, step into the role of a thought leader, give advice, comment on a post, or be interviewed as an expert.
Because of this you may have the tendency to hold back what you want to say, or stay small, or safe so that you won’t have to open yourself up to that criticism.
Today, let’s look at criticism differently and how it can be of great value to you, in your personal and professional life. As well, what's behind those responses and how to gain value from it.
Criticism is a source of valuable information that allows you to grow personally and professionally, gain more credibility, and fine tune your expertise. Although, you may often cringe at the sight of it, and get defensive when you receive comments that aren't positive.
When someone gives you feedback they’re doing it for a reason. But their feedback can be received as negative because of their emotionally charged reaction to your message. Instead of taking the time to formulate a clear question, or articulating their point of view, they may lash out at you. This is mostly because you connected with them on a personal level and that made them aware of something they're dissatisfied with, or it conflicts with their beliefs.
If you determine why they're compelled to comment, then you can take a potentially negative situation and turn it into insight that will help you improve.
When you receive feedback ask these questions before responding:
Feedback is like gold, and if you can see it as valuable instead of judgement, then you can use it to your benefit. Receiving feedback is a gift from someone else, who cares enough to tell you that something is wrong. It tells you what you’re doing right and where you can improve.
I would much rather get negative feedback than no feedback at all
By communicating a more defined message, you're able to generate valuable feedback. If you remain vague and safe in your messages, then you confuse the listener and don’t provide any value. You fail to connect.
People want to experience your message, they want to relate to it, and to you. Don’t deny them that opportunity. Create an authentic experience that'll connect you to your audience on a deeper level, and then you’ll be seen as a more transparent leader.
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Christine Hourd, ACC is a Certified Professional Success and Leadership Coach, located in Calgary, Alberta. She works with people who want to change their mindset in favour of enjoying more positive experiences. Find out how success coaching can help you.
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