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One mistake most make in our prime when we tackle ambitious goals

Why do we fear those largely ambitious goals when we've graduated past our 30s or 40s? Getting an education in a new field or starting a business seems too lofty of a goal to tackle, and completely unreasonable to many.

That's what I thought too!

Now in my 50s I've decided to end this ridiculousness of being too old, or that four years of an academic commitment is half of my life I have left!  As I look back, those four years have repeated itself several times. And guess what? I'm still here.

This kept me from taking the first step

Much of what derailed this ambitious goal was me focusing on the end result. There were so many stories I told myself of how this would consume my life, and four years is a long time! What more can I do with that time?

This kept me from taking the first step. I had the end goal in mind but no idea if I could handle the hard work and effort required in between to make it happen. Committing to a dream this big seemed out of my...

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How better decisions are made by doing these three things

When have you made some of the worst decisions in your life? This can be committing to something you shouldn't have, or acting out in ways that isn't like your normal behaviour. 

We all have those moments when we give into a request and say yes, instead of no. Or say or do something that we wish we hadn't. Then have to sort out the mess the next day, or try to figure out how our schedule will handle this new commitment.

Making decisions is one of the most important skills in our life. One we practice over and over again, starting from the time we're born, and we progressively getting better at strengthening this skill as we mature.

But sometimes we have set backs and make bad decisions that aren't good for us. Most of these regrettable decisions can often be linked to our state of being at that time. We're tired, upset, intoxicated, overly optimistic, stressed, lonely, etc.  

When we're in one of these states our awareness is reduced and we're not reflecting...

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Find more opportunities and reduce stress by doing 3 things right now

Have you ever experienced a feeling of being rushed or the need to over multi-task? This is a sign that we've been roped into the fast paced way of living. Don't worry, you're not the only one, we all get lured into this spell bounding hurry up and don't fall behind way of being.

Although, what I would worry about is if we're always in top speed to get ahead or merely to keep up. This can lead to lost opportunities, and more stress that results in reduced productivity and thus, lost income!

But there's a way to get off of this fast paced manic train, and that's by slowing down. Of course, if it was just the act of slowing down there would be far more relaxed and content people out there, and I wouldn't have to talk to you about this. 

The process of slowing down allows you to get further ahead, and also live a more fulfilled life, but it requires self-control. Something many of us have heard of, yet we lack the insight to manage it. 

Having self-control allows for...

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5 Ways that will Increase Your Control and Make Isolation Positive


With the limitations we currently have while in isolation, we often feel like we're relinquishing control. When we begin to try to control other people and their actions, this is a sign that we don't feel in control of our life.

Before this need to control starts to push people away, we need to change the way we think and carry out our actions. 

It may feel like we're compromising our freedom—we can't go to social events, we have to maintain social distancing at the grocery store, we can only buy one item at a time, the kids don't have access to the playground... I'm sure there are many other places you've found where you're feeling limited. And every time you turn on the news there are more restrictions.

I want to help you get back in the driver's seat and in control of your life to make this isolation much more positive!

Here are 5 ways to have you feeling more in control of your life and having a positive experience in isolation:

  1. Create Rituals or Routines.

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5 Ways to Stop Extra Demands from Ruining Performance at Work

Maintaining a consistent performance at work and reaching those targets on a regular basis can be challenging. But when we add stress from extra demands, like home renovations, family events or moving homes, this can ruin our performance at work. 
So how can you stay positive and organized, and not let these extra obligations make you stressed?
Many times we can't organize the mess and manage the things that are out of our control, but what we can do is to organize and manage our thoughts and choices around them. This we have 100% control of, and that's enough to reduce that stress.
Here are five ways that you can stop extra demands on your life from ruining your performance at work:
  1. Visualize how you'd like the situation to look. When I was in the thick of renovations, stuff was in boxes and it took me more time to find things, and I spent a lot of time dusting and cleaning. It was a huge mess all the time! But as I...
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How to make it a positive work environment with negative people

Working with negative people isn't good for your health. It adds stress to your day, disrupts your productivity, makes you grumpy, and if you bring it home, that spreads to your family like a virus. All because of this one person at work who makes their problems, your problems.
Creating a positive work environment is important since you may not have the power to fire that person. Nor have the option to shout, "I quit!" and walk out that door leaving misery in the rear view mirror of your car, as you drive away.
Have you ever been told, "the grass isn't greener on the other side?" This is telling you that no matter where you go, you're going to be confronted with the same problem, unless you figure out how to deal with it.
So let's deal with it!
By discovering what's behind the negative behaviour, we can create actions to move you towards a more positive work environment. The best thing is—it's in your control.
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